Donating clothes to charity, Sydney

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I come from a family that saves things. Anything that’s useful should never, ever be thrown away.

However, of my three brothers, I’m the one who’s the clothes horse. So, it’s important that I get rid of clothes once in a while.

A few different thoughts have helped me to do this:

  • First of all, I had to find a charity that I liked. I just don’t like the religious charity shops scattered throughout Sydney. Too much of a long history with too much homophobia. Charity bins, as I hope you know, are even worse: just random business-people who collect clothes, in the name of charity, but may not give much of a donation IMG_4167 (1)at all. Then, I wanted to find a store that would get a good price for something that was in good condition. There are a number of shops that are so rundown that they’re not likely to either get much for an item of clothes, or recognise better quality pieces and charge more!
  • So, voila! The Australian Red Cross in Paddington sells nicer clothes and charges more, and seems to have a well-chosen selection of men’s clothes. I really like their work.
  • Now, I haven’t read Marie Kondo’s book about tidying up but I did like her philosophy: ask whether something brings you joy.
  • Other advice is: have you worn it in the last season? Or: have you worn it in the last year?
  • For me, a good question, and one demanding an honest answer was: do I feel great wearing this piece of clothes? Not uncommonly, I would buy something and there IMG_4166would always be something that bothered me a little about it: the shape of a collar, the colour, the fit. I was much worse when I was younger in buying things BECAUSE THEY WERE ON SALE and then figuring out that they were too large, or not quite right.
  • Another good way for me to look at my clothes is as a consumable good. Now, I know an ecological mindset hates fast fashion, and how disposable it is. But it did help me to think that if I spent the same amount on a shirt, say, as a meal, and that I’d enjoyed wearing that shirt a few times, it is NOT necessary for me to keep it forever, just because it is still wearable.
  • Finally, as a writer, it amused me to write down what I gave away in a little bulleted list in my online journal. Kind of way of ticking them off a list.

Armed with all of these techniques, I managed to fill up two large bags of clothes (thirty items, I counted!) and bring them to the Australian Red Cross on Sunday and… Boy, I feel happy to have done so.

Have you cleaned out your closet lately?

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Food Diary: La Mesa, Chinatown, Sydney

IMG_4164Just around the corner from Dixon Street near Chinatown, and up a flight of stairs is La Mesa, a Filipino restaurant that looks like it’s been comfortably here for a while. Saturday night, we go at 5:30pm or so, super-early before going to watch the movie Carol. It’s crowded already.

We opted for a plate of mixed appetizers each: the little spring roll was perfect; my better half thought the deep-fried quail egg was weird, the fried vegetable thing was OK, and the two BBQ meat items were Dee-Li-Cious.

IMG_4163I couldn’t go by the Chicken Adobo, and it was nice enough, that tangy dark vinegar flavour and tender meat, though I have to say, that recipe awhile ago from the NYT for making it home, was richer and tastier.

IMG_4162I’m glad we ordered the garlic rice (very tasty) and our coconut water was a good match for the food too. The star of course: Crispy Pata. A deep-fried pork knuckle, a generous portion, and what could be wrong with super-tender and super-crispy pork.

So, a tasty and reasonably priced meal ($70 for the two of us, non-alcoholic drinks), though the service, in a busy but not full restaurant, was really pretty slow, and the waiter looked scared of… everything. I want to go back and try more dishes, and there were many things which were unfamiliar to me.

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Sydney Food Diary: Bentley Restaurant and Bar, CBD

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I loved Bentley Bar when it was in Surry Hills, and would recommend it to friends for a special meal: upscale but affordable, inventive and with a great vegetarian degustation. While Chef Brent Savage and his crew have been at the Radisson Blu since 2013, I somehow didn’t make it there until late 2015.

IMG_3908The reason was that this food blogging is paying off, man! I got invited to an exclusive wine lunch with the best tasting wines of Italy! How excellent is that. I even managed to _DSC8310bring along my better half. I’ve since been to a number of complimentary meals at various restaurants, and one or two larger events with other food bloggers.

I would have to say that this, overall, was the nicest one with the most high-end and luxurious food, and a ridiculous amount of wine.

While I’ve met a number of bloggers and instagrammers who are busy monetising their pastime, I was a bit naive, and it seemed like a wonderful surprise and gift to get an invitation like this one:

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But while it was indeed a special lunch, the dishes were the same as what are served on the menu, both as part of the degustation and as main dishes. Check out this menu. How wonderful!

And we were treated to an amazing selection of wine. I was a bit confused in terms of it being a promotional event, as I’m not sure how easy it is to get these wines… And if I recommend something, it’s good to know that someone could act on it and go out and grab a bottle. In any case, we felt very lucky indeed to try all of these great wines.

I liked the experience so much that I went back just over a week later for lunch with a friend and colleague, where I had the spring lamb with cauliflower, caper leaves and buttermilk (as above, the first photo!). It was as good as it looked.

Speaking of which: this was also as good as it looked (this is the wakame, celtus, kingfish dish). There were a few spectacular dishes with a green colour palate!

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IMG_3904The signature style of the restaurant, as I remember from before, is delicious sauces, and amazing presentation. The sauces and jus are usually beautifully savoury and add interesting textural contrasts to the main dishes.

There’s also a nice balance of a protein, whatever the star of the dish is, and an interesting vegetable, interestingly done: asparagus, kohlrabi, roasted celery heart.

I’m happy to let you feast with your eyes, and know that the dishes were just as tasty.

IMG_3907As you can see, we got a nice explanation of the wines and of the restaurant, and it was fun meeting folks. In fact, this was the first time, I think, that I met the fabulous Lisa of Weekend Food Escapes, and it’s been nice knowing her every since!

Living in Surry Hills, I’m rather proud of the area, so I miss Bentley Bar being in this neighbourhood where it had a more hipster and down to earth vibe. Now, at the hotel, it feels quite grand and special occasion.

And I would recommend it for a special occasion, indeed. The tasting menu is $150 with matching wine at $90.

As before, there is also a vegetarian tasting menu (a little cheaper, at $130) and I do remember my vegetarian IMG_3910friends raving about being able to have a proper tasting menu, that doesn’t feel like it’s just the menu with meat, but has been specially created.

For lunch, with my vegetarian friend, she only had one option as a main, but she thought it was delicious, so that was all fine.

It’s hard to find room for dessert these days, so I’m glad at the special meal that one just came out.

It was pretty amazing: Violet Ice-Cream + Cocoa Honeycomb + Blueberry. The little violet sticks were pretty cool.

IMG_3909A huge thanks to Unica Comunicazione for organising the lunch and for inviting us (and they were lovely people too).

And yes, do go to the Bentley Restaurant when you can to try it out. You won’t be disappointed.

Bentley Restaurant and Bar - Radisson Blu Plaza Hotel Menu, Reviews, Photos, Location and Info - Zomato

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Food Diary: Kishimoto Japanese Restaurant, Vancouver

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Kishimoto is a phenomenon in Vancouver with a line-up from right before it opens until it fills up and after. My brother and sister-in-law are obsessed with this place, and I can see why. It’s top-class Japanese food, presented with considerable style, and at rather ridiculously cheap prices, for what you get.

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I’d never had sushi rice that was grilled or deep fried crisp on the bottom (and with spicy tuna on top).

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The rolls, as above, are inventively presented, but the taste is supreme.

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Pressed sushi is not particularly common, I think, in a standard Japanese restaurant in Canada (or Australia).

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We got to try a huge variety of sushi, including some of my favourites below: tamago (omelette) and that looks like black cod… so hard to get in Australia.

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The sashimi was served on a block of ice… My niece seemed to enjoy this meal too.

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What can I say? I think I’ll let the photos speak for themselves. It’s not like they need any MORE business, and if you want to know more about the restaurant itself, they’re well written-up. Let me just say that it was an incredible meal!

Kishimoto Japanese Kitchen & Sushi Bar Menu, Reviews, Photos, Location and Info - Zomato

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Food Diary: Royal Dinette, Vancouver

IMG_3945Growing up in Vancouver, I knew the local diners, the ethnic restaurants and the special-occasion meals, often in hotel dining rooms. But that was long before all the world became foodies, and everywhere hosts interesting, contemporary and classy restaurants, that often celebrate local cuisine or produce. I was SO glad to be treated to a meal at Royal Dinette in Vancouver this Christmas; I didn’t expect to get to such a fancy meal.

IMG_3937While my generous friends who treated me are dear to me, and wouldn’t have judged me for taking photos of food, I did feel slightly shy, so while we had a complete tasting menu, along with matching drinks, I only snapped a few photos as memories. I thought the food was wonderful, delightful, slightly unusual and served in perfect portions matched with interesting grog.

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Also a fun atmosphere and good service. All in all, a great food experience for me.

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Food Diary: Smoke’s Poutinerie, Vancouver

IMG_3934The French-Canadian Poutine has gained a mythical status in the last decade or more. Vancouver has a number of different poutine restaurants, McDonalds has its own version, and I think it’s gone far beyond its origins in Quebec.

When I tried it as a university student, I remember the greedy pleasure of them, the weirdness of the cheese curds on the hot fries, melting them and mixing with the gravy. It was particularly good if one had been out late as night at bars, and had drunk a little (or a lot) beforehand.

I haven’t tried one in years, and not certainly since it’s become so popular.

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At Christmas, my nephew Jerry wanted to eat poutine, and I thought, ‘Why not?’ His reasoning – that it’s something you can only get in Canada – is obviously genetic as it’s how my family thinks: eat the local specialties!

We found this loud and brash store, decorated in ironic Canadiana, and I ordered poutine but with perogies on top, the Ukranian fried dumplings, usually filled with mashed potatoes, another particularly Canadian delicacy (as the Ukranians settled parts of the Prairie provinces). As you can see, it came with bacon. And mayonnaise.

My better half had his with chicken and cheese sauce.

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Have my taste buds changed? Were my expectations too high? I do like the idea of kind of trashy delightful fast food. But god, I found this disgusting: fried starch on fried starch with salty additives and a dairy sauce. Bleck. My apologies to French-Canadians and Canada. This may be not the fault of Smoke’s at all, but I will no longer be defending poutine as a national treasure.

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Book Review: Hanya Yanagihara’s A Little Life

A Little LifeA Little Life by Hanya Yanagihara
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

*Non-spoiler review*

A deeply emotional, beautifully written novel: full, complex and harrowing. It speaks with depth about our relationships of friendship and love, and also our relationship with life itself, told across such a substantial time period that gives an affecting weight to this novel about a character who I fell in love with, but cannot love himself.

*Review with spoilers (really, this is written for others who have read the book)*

I forgive you, Hanya, really I do: for putting me through the wringer like the last season of Six Feet Under, for making me cry aloud with a reading experience I don’t recall having gone through, for revealing or inflicting so much pain on your protagonist that I wondered if it would be worth it. But of course it was, though in a way too deep and complex to describe in a book review. To get some idea of that, someone would have to read the book themselves, and then all of us would have our own individual responses and reactions, but I’m pretty sure that yes, we would all forgive you.

I downloaded Hanya Yanagihara’s A Little Life to read on holidays because I wanted something substantial to read; I’d read about the book’s awards; I like her name (c’mon, admit it; it’s a cool name); and I was intrigued by what little I’d heard about the book: about four friends, some of them gay, in and around New York City. While I was trying to avoid reading any substantial reviews (and thus influence my reading), I did read a line about her cruelty to her characters, and a pal on Facebook mentioned he found it too hard to read or finish.

So, my experience of the book was interesting in light of this. I was first interested in her storytelling. The last major novel I’d read, Jonathan Franzen’s Purity, was so wordy, with huge long sections and chapters, without break, I found it a relief that Yanagihara’s storytelling seems straightforward and clear, moving back and forth between focusing on different characters, and expertly and unusually moving into the second-person at times (with one character addressing another). There is a clear focus on a particular time period in the character’s lives, with stories from the past slowly and expertly revealed, and the breadth of time portrayed, taking the characters from late teens to late middle-age, gives such a feeling of substance: of complex lives lived, and of the not inconsiderable genius to capture them in such an ambitious novel. I also found her writing addictive, and because I was so interested in her characters and stories, I found the book hard to put down.

After the initial impression that her writing was straightforward, I was then more and more impressed with how beautiful it is. It’s not showy but occasionally moves into unusual metaphor and lovely poetic qualities, though what’s most impressive is how she employs it: she is interested in describing emotional lives, and friendships, the ways we become closer and move away from each other, as well as memory and the passage of time. After I read the book, I read an interview where she spoke of her specific intentions to write about the inability of men to communicate with each other, a lack of an emotional vocabulary, and I definitely felt this through the whole book without being able to actually say what was happening. So masterful.

And the story! My god. I didn’t expect it to be so emotional and intense, and build and build. I found myself with physical reactions, cringing and revulsed, nearly cried out to stop one character from doing something and, yes, I was crying or near tears many times (although flying does make me a bit emotional).

It is an incredible and powerful story, not one I’ve come across or read about before. In fact, about three-quarters into the book, I did start to wonder whether the author was being too cruel to her protagonist: how much pain and misfortune can one person take? Not one, two, or three trials, but I’d count five. FIVE.

It was then that I felt a contradiction: because the emotions feel so real and authentic, the intelligence so lively and grounded in an understanding of how people move around us, I found myself questioning the shape of the story, the incredible tragedy of the main character, revealed and compounded, and even his friends: ridiculously successful in their chosen careers. In the end, it allowed me to appreciate the novel more by thinking of it as a fable, a novel, a fairy tale of sorts, so the exaggeration is more myth than melodrama.

A final comment is about the multiracial cast of characters of various sexualities. I came of age reading gay literature, written by gay men, as well as writing by those of us from different ethnic backgrounds exploring (and celebrating) our cultural backgrounds. So, a Japanese-American woman writer crossing genders to write about men, with characters who are naturally from a diversity of cultural backgrounds, and all expressing complex sexualities seems to represent a brand, new world for me.

I detected not a false note, and to have created a protagonist (as I discovered, this book involves a group of four friends, but the story really belongs to one of them) whose sexuality is a result of circumstance and emotional connection (not from a gene or orientation) also feels particularly contemporary, even moreso because the writing and themes aren’t forced with a political imperative, but come from a literary imperative to create a powerful story.

I’m still a bit stunned by this book. Some books I love because I admire them, or the writing, or I like the themes and stories. This book surprised me, drew me in and has left me emotionally exhausted. Phew.

What did you think?

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Food Diary: Playa Takeria, Darlinghurst, Sydney

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The best thing about Playa Takeria is that they serve, without hoopla, a very authentic Mexican treat called a bandera: a shot of tequila with a shot of lime and a shot of spicy tomato juice, the three colours imitating the colours of the Mexican flag (bandera). IMG_3912It’s meant to be sipped, not sculled, and allows one to appreciate tequila not as an adolescent way to get slamming drunk, but as a sophisticated liqueur with different characteristics: smoky, savoury, rich.

IMG_3913In any case, the food was quite nice as well. We had tacos of the day, a quesadilla and a sort of ceviche dish. I think I remember it feeling a little pricey for what it is, but hey, that’s Darlinghurst for you. Our service was terrible, both having our order taken and then trying to pay the bill, but hopefully, the waiter was just having an off night. The folks here seem nice, in general.   IMG_3914

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Vancouver Food Diary: Congee Noodle House

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Known on menus as ‘Beef Brisket Water Dumpling Noodle Soup’, I think this is basically the perfect food. Of course, I’m biased. It was Dad’s favourite, and now, it is a favourite of all three of his sons. However, I do think I picked up the preference for Water Dumplings from Mom, a plumper version of a wonton, and with more shrimp.

Sadly, this particular dish is found only in Canada and Hong Kong (being a Cantonese dish). In Australia restaurants, they find it peculiar to have the beef brisket AND wonton along with the noodles and it’s twice the price for a mediocre dish.

What’s special in a good Canadian version is… well, a combination of pretty much everything. A rich, salty broth that has probably been on the stove for a very long time. Thin, chewy noodles, obviously made from scratch. Beautifully made dumplings with slippery skins and the right combo of pork and shrimp, whether wonton or sui gao (water dumplings). And finally, the beef brisket should have some layers of fat, and basically melt in your mouth. Ah, finally a perfect stalk of gai lan is not unwanted. In Sydney, a few limp and watery stalks of bok choy add colour, but not a nice texture or taste.

This particular ngau lam sui gao mein, found at Congee Noodle House, is near perfect. When people ask me if I miss Canada, the easier answer is ‘no’ but the truth is, I miss this dish, from restaurants like this, terribly.

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Food Diary: Battle of the Taiwanese Fried Chicken, Sydney CBD, Part 2

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A few weeks after eating at Hot Star Chicken, looking for something quick and cheap, we come across Taiwan Soul Food (missing an ‘i’). The specialty apparently is to choose a bunch of items like tofu, vegies and weird stuff, give it, along with a pack of instant noodles, to the chef and they cook it up in a broth that has been simmering for 12 hours. Next time, we’ll try it. This time, we decided to try their version of the Taiwanese Fried Chicken. IMG_4147

We ordered one on its own, and one with a bowl of rice that came with some delicious pickles and minced meat stuff. I myself thought my piece was not as crispy as Hot Star Chicken, and therefore not as good, but my better half thought his was equally good, if not better. IMG_4148

In any case, it was new and different, and hey: I’ve tried a new food. Have you tried it? What did you think?

Taiwan Soul Food Menu, Reviews, Photos, Location and Info - Zomato

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